Summary of The Code of Extraordinary Mind
here you go,
1. Exceptional persons do not allow
themselves to be caged in by traditional beliefs.
2. Exceptional persons reject standards of
behavior that they are programmed to adhere to.
3. The re-structuring of our belief and value
systems that interfere with our goals is called consciousness
engineering.
4. Exceptional persons deliberately focus on
thoughts that are in alignment with their desired goals.
5. Exceptional persons re-adjust their
habitual actions to achieve self-mastery.
6. Bending reality is the healthy balance
between personal fulfillment and making a difference in the life of
other people.
7. Exceptional persons achieve happiness by
practicing "blissipline," or the values of gratitude, mercy and
generosity.
8. Exceptional persons have control over
their life objectives.
9. Exceptional persons do not require other
people’s affirmation; their source of validation comes from
within.
10. Exceptional persons pay attention to
their inner voice which directs them to their life purpose.
Now in brief ,
Concept 1
Exceptional persons do not allow themselves to be
caged in by traditional beliefs.
Most of our practices and beliefs, which are
handed down to us by family and society, significantly influence
the way we think and do things. For most of us, it becomes a
comfort zone further exacerbated by the fear of breaking family
traditions.
Conformity is a given in most societies.
Civilization and Its Discontents, a book written in the 1930s by
prominent psychologist Sigmund Freud, discusses the pressures of
social norms on primal human instincts. Freud raises the idea that
people use standards that are not valid for measuring power,
success and wealth for themselves and others since these measures
don’t apply to what is truly valuable in life. While conformity
assures order and continuity of social institutions, however, once
they are ingrained in people it translates into people’s inability
to evaluate choices particularly on what truly matters to them.
This “culturescape” or the sum total of norms and beliefs that are
handed down to us are accepted as normal and therefore unopposed.
There is a need to break from this “culturescape.” It is a crucial
step in learning other liberating values and beliefs.
Concept 2
Exceptional persons reject standards of behavior
that they are programmed to adhere to.
If we are not aware of these rules which have
been handed down to us, it would take a long time to realize how
largely they have shaped our existence. We are most familiar with
the pattern where children take up professions of their parents.
Take, for instance, a girl who is born incredibly creative, but
this talent is stifled since she opts to be a lawyer just like her
father. However, she turns out as a mediocre lawyer, not because
she did not develop the skills or she lacks the aptitude for
lawyering, but because her heart was not into what she was doing.
Eventually, she leaves her profession and pursues art— her real
calling, and becomes a successful artist. Finally, she realizes
that she pursued lawyering as a career because at the back of her
mind was her father’s rule: there is no money in art. While the
time she spent as a lawyer is irretrievably gone and wasted, she
makes her new-found wisdom work for her in further identifying
other patterns in her life that limit her to become fully what she
is.
It is true that by following rules life
choices are simpler and one is not fully responsible for decisions
one makes which explains why we seldom challenge cultural or
societal norms. Doubtless, it requires a lot of courage to ignore
age-old rules, but the gains are remarkably immense in terms of
personal growth and fulfillment
Concept 3
The re-structuring of our belief and value systems
that interfere with our goals is called consciousness
engineering.
Most of the time we are caged in by our
biases developed from learned ways of thinking that hamper our
genuine desires and interests. The good news is we are flexible
enough to change our culturally restricted views to more personally
motivated thinking. It is good to remember that our beliefs form
our reality and it follows that positive practices can lead to a
more productive and constructive life.
Research has shown that we experience reality
based on our belief system. For instance, elderly people who
approach ageing positively have a longer lifespan of almost 8 years
compared to those who fear to get old. Similarly, people who are
confident that they are qualified for a job position are likely to
get hired since their positive outlook enhances their ability to be
resourceful and to project confidence when going through the
application process.
Concept 4
Exceptional persons deliberately focus on thoughts
that are in alignment with their desired goals.
Our thoughts form our reality so exceptional
people have learned to deliberately decide on what to think and
these thoughts are always in consonance with their desired
outcomes. Mind-body interaction author, Louise Hayes in her book,
You can Heal Your Life (1984), reveals her personal story on the
efficacy of thinking positive in spite of the likely chance of
negative results. When she had to move away from New York City, she
was confronted with two big problems: how to sell her personal
stuff and how to tell the grumpy apartment owner. Faced with these
difficulties, she visualized an easy transition through mantras
that state she will be able to sell everything and that she always
has been in good terms with the apartment owner. She was indeed
amazed when her landlord felt bad about her leaving and even
offered to purchase her things so he could later rent out the unit
as a furnished place. On top of it, he volunteered to recommend her
to her future landlord. Hayes’ personal anecdote strongly
illustrates how our thoughts shape our reality.
Concept 5
Exceptional persons re-adjust their habitual
actions to achieve self-mastery.
Evaluation is always a part of systems
management but it requires a performance standard. For instance, a
criterion for a man’s fitness is to manage 50 pushups. Failure to
pass this evaluation should make him decide to re-design his
lifestyle from diet to exercise to sleep regimens. The point is
evaluation should be flexible enough to adapt to specific
structures or organizations.
After all, systems are tools for achieving
goals. For instance, a woman who is about to get married is
expectedly swamped with details of the wedding. But her end-goal is
ever clear: she wants a perfect wedding where everyone—including
herself—can enjoy in an overall atmosphere of sharing and love. To
be able to achieve this, she has to let go of hands-on management
and learn to delegate tasks such as what flowers would best fit the
wedding décor and what would be the best menu for the after wedding
reception. If she is brave enough, she can also give her wedding
guests the privilege to choose their own seats.
Tried and tested systems are applicable in
almost all aspects of life from home to workplace relationships.
Organizing one’s thoughts, particularly on how to make better
everyday activities, optimizes possibilities. Twyla Tharp wrote
about this in her book, The Creative Habit (2006). Though written
in the context of artistic pursuits, she maintains that the
habitual way of doing things is just as important in the artistic
process, maybe even more than the sudden emergence of inspiration.
Additionally, she says that there is no such thing as artistic
genius. Creativity is achieved and learned through a routine
process which everyone can adopt. By extension, she is saying that
exceptional people have learned to cultivate the merits of habitual
actions for productivity.
Concept 6
Bending reality is the healthy balance between
personal fulfillment and making a difference in the life of other
people.
There is a term for that state of perfect
harmony with one’s desired goals and state of wellness. It is
called bending reality. For instance, while happiness can be
achieved by simply picking up a book and reading in a cozy and
shady part of one’s patio but to maximize this seemingly
insignificant routine, one should pay attention to the need to do
this habit in alignment with one’s life goal or objective.
To illustrate, a woman may be happiest when
she does ballroom dancing simply for the sake of dancing. She finds
the dance sessions relaxing but unknown to her, it is when she is
free from stress that her intuition is at its sharpest. It is
likely that her feeling of freedom from angst as a result of her
dancing inspires her to put up free movement lessons to interested
persons as a tool for improving their wellness as well as their
means of self-expression. In this sense, she is bending reality
because she uses her desire for dancing not only for her
self-improvement but also to achieve her goal to have an impact on
the world at large. One the other hand, if she limits dancing
simply for her enjoyment in the confines of the dance studio, she
narrows the boundaries of her growth and her potentials.
Concept 7
Exceptional persons achieve happiness by practicing
blissipline, or the values of gratitude, mercy and generosity.
Being in the moment and being happy at the
same time need self-discipline particularly if one has limited
leisure time or when one is into a big project such as managing a
business or aiming for a job promotion. To do this, one must
develop the habit of being grateful, merciful and helpful. Lakhiani
calls this blissipline. People who are naturally appreciative have
a pleasant disposition which generates more feeling good aura.
Forgiving and forgetting hurts and disappointments means letting go
of resentments by refraining from blaming others for one’s failures
or unhappiness. Most importantly, generous acts always considerably
increase our feeling of self-worth.
Never use the bad things that happen to you
as an excuse to justify a negative attitude. It is expected, for
instance, that you will feel upset if a trusted friend betrays you.
But it is good to realize that you have a choice on how to react.
You can hold on to the fault or you can look for the lesson you
might learn from the incident. In The Secret of Happiness, David
Miller refers to a strong character as one who achieves happiness
by making other people happy. In fact, he says it is the only kind
of gesture that generates true happiness. When we are appreciative
of blessings, when we forget hurts done to us or when we give—these
are the roads to happiness
Concept 8
Exceptional persons have control over their life
objectives.
People choose between two types of goals.
Firstly, there is means goal which can only be achieved with the
help of other people. An example, for instance, is aiming to stick
to one intimate partner during one's lifetime. Secondly, there are
end goals which are dependent exclusively on an individual’s
actions. A good example is being a successful writer.
End goals are more fulfilling because it
helps a person grow and at the same time they create a positive
impact to a larger community. An example is Bill Cummings. Cummings
is an American billionaire philanthropist who introduced the
uncommon practice of giving benefits to his real estate employees.
He could afford this because his company was considerably
profitable and stable. Hence, wanting to create a permanent
positive work environment, he turned toward improving teamwork in
his company by creating a mechanism where all his staff can donate
$1000 to an organization of their own choice. Cummings did not do
this to create media mileage for his company, which could have been
a means goal, rather, he created a situation where his employees
can experience the happiness that is generated by sharing. This was
the end goal for Cummings. In doing so, he also allowed his
employees to re-connect with fundamental values that generate a
sense of self-worth and well-being.
Concept 9
Exceptional persons do not require other people’s
affirmation; their source of validation comes from within.
To attain you fullest potential you have to
have true grit or extreme emotional and mental toughness. People
with this quality are referred to as unfuckwithable. This means you
do what you have to do to reach your goals unmindful of the
challenges and what people may say or think about you. In short,
you are sufficient unto yourself and you don’t allow yourself to
react to outside opinion.
Sometimes we perceive high profile people
like movie stars or famous politicians as unfuckwithable. But it
does not follow that popularity makes one untouchable or immune to
adversarial opinion since success or prominence does not translate
to a strong character. Take the case of prominent writer and
thinker Alain de Botton. He could not handle the negative review on
his book The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work (2009). The viciousness
of his response to a particular blogger shows that he has allowed
the blogger’s opinion to affect him. Despite being a bestselling
author, De Botton was vulnerable and exposed the fact that he was
not unfuckwithable. Actor Gabourey Sidibe, however, showed what
true grit is. Her response to the mean comments on her Golden Globe
Awards dress in 2014 was to tweet that she did cry over the
comments while on her private plane on her way to her dream job.
What a subtle way to get back at her detractors, and what a way to
demonstrate self-worth and toughness.
Concept 10
Exceptional persons pay attention to their inner
voice which directs them to their life purpose.
Extraordinary persons first develop their
optimal potentiality and then they focus on improving the quality
of life of others. It is at this point that they realize their
higher purpose although it is often something that defies rational
explanation. This is so because each individual is a part of the
God particle which makes one a Godicle. Only those who recognize
the divine in them are ready to use their skills and thoughts in
manners which are nothing less than god-like in nature.
In addition, those who recognize the divine
in them are potentially able to experience deep insights on
different levels. For instance, an actor diagnosed with cancer
might think of putting up a self-therapy project. It is likely she
gets into the project as a way of diverting her attention from the
stressful thought of having a terminal illness. As she gets deeply
involved in her project, she is able to put her life in perspective
and it motivates her to adopt a healthy lifestyle as well. She
brings this mindset to her TV series which gets the nod of a
producer who eventually offers her a new TV show. Visualizing her
future on a TV star, the actor, given her expanded consciousness,
realizes that the illness and her turning into an advocate for
cancer victims is integral to her life’s journey. This discernment
is part of her growth in spirituality and an understanding of the
divine nature in her. As she moves on with her life, she learns to
trust her inner voice, her intuition or call it her Godicle which
directs her to align her decisions to universal truths.
Thanks for Reading
kumarsumanabhishek4@gmail.com
1. Exceptional persons do not allow
themselves to be caged in by traditional beliefs.
2. Exceptional persons reject standards of
behavior that they are programmed to adhere to.
3. The re-structuring of our belief and value
systems that interfere with our goals is called consciousness
engineering.
4. Exceptional persons deliberately focus on
thoughts that are in alignment with their desired goals.
5. Exceptional persons re-adjust their
habitual actions to achieve self-mastery.
6. Bending reality is the healthy balance
between personal fulfillment and making a difference in the life of
other people.
7. Exceptional persons achieve happiness by
practicing "blissipline," or the values of gratitude, mercy and
generosity.
8. Exceptional persons have control over
their life objectives.
9. Exceptional persons do not require other
people’s affirmation; their source of validation comes from
within.
10. Exceptional persons pay attention to
their inner voice which directs them to their life purpose.
Now in brief ,
Concept 1
Exceptional persons do not allow themselves to be
caged in by traditional beliefs.
Most of our practices and beliefs, which are
handed down to us by family and society, significantly influence
the way we think and do things. For most of us, it becomes a
comfort zone further exacerbated by the fear of breaking family
traditions.
Conformity is a given in most societies.
Civilization and Its Discontents, a book written in the 1930s by
prominent psychologist Sigmund Freud, discusses the pressures of
social norms on primal human instincts. Freud raises the idea that
people use standards that are not valid for measuring power,
success and wealth for themselves and others since these measures
don’t apply to what is truly valuable in life. While conformity
assures order and continuity of social institutions, however, once
they are ingrained in people it translates into people’s inability
to evaluate choices particularly on what truly matters to them.
This “culturescape” or the sum total of norms and beliefs that are
handed down to us are accepted as normal and therefore unopposed.
There is a need to break from this “culturescape.” It is a crucial
step in learning other liberating values and beliefs.
Concept 2
Exceptional persons reject standards of behavior
that they are programmed to adhere to.
If we are not aware of these rules which have
been handed down to us, it would take a long time to realize how
largely they have shaped our existence. We are most familiar with
the pattern where children take up professions of their parents.
Take, for instance, a girl who is born incredibly creative, but
this talent is stifled since she opts to be a lawyer just like her
father. However, she turns out as a mediocre lawyer, not because
she did not develop the skills or she lacks the aptitude for
lawyering, but because her heart was not into what she was doing.
Eventually, she leaves her profession and pursues art— her real
calling, and becomes a successful artist. Finally, she realizes
that she pursued lawyering as a career because at the back of her
mind was her father’s rule: there is no money in art. While the
time she spent as a lawyer is irretrievably gone and wasted, she
makes her new-found wisdom work for her in further identifying
other patterns in her life that limit her to become fully what she
is.
It is true that by following rules life
choices are simpler and one is not fully responsible for decisions
one makes which explains why we seldom challenge cultural or
societal norms. Doubtless, it requires a lot of courage to ignore
age-old rules, but the gains are remarkably immense in terms of
personal growth and fulfillment
Concept 3
The re-structuring of our belief and value systems
that interfere with our goals is called consciousness
engineering.
Most of the time we are caged in by our
biases developed from learned ways of thinking that hamper our
genuine desires and interests. The good news is we are flexible
enough to change our culturally restricted views to more personally
motivated thinking. It is good to remember that our beliefs form
our reality and it follows that positive practices can lead to a
more productive and constructive life.
Research has shown that we experience reality
based on our belief system. For instance, elderly people who
approach ageing positively have a longer lifespan of almost 8 years
compared to those who fear to get old. Similarly, people who are
confident that they are qualified for a job position are likely to
get hired since their positive outlook enhances their ability to be
resourceful and to project confidence when going through the
application process.
Concept 4
Exceptional persons deliberately focus on thoughts
that are in alignment with their desired goals.
Our thoughts form our reality so exceptional
people have learned to deliberately decide on what to think and
these thoughts are always in consonance with their desired
outcomes. Mind-body interaction author, Louise Hayes in her book,
You can Heal Your Life (1984), reveals her personal story on the
efficacy of thinking positive in spite of the likely chance of
negative results. When she had to move away from New York City, she
was confronted with two big problems: how to sell her personal
stuff and how to tell the grumpy apartment owner. Faced with these
difficulties, she visualized an easy transition through mantras
that state she will be able to sell everything and that she always
has been in good terms with the apartment owner. She was indeed
amazed when her landlord felt bad about her leaving and even
offered to purchase her things so he could later rent out the unit
as a furnished place. On top of it, he volunteered to recommend her
to her future landlord. Hayes’ personal anecdote strongly
illustrates how our thoughts shape our reality.
Concept 5
Exceptional persons re-adjust their habitual
actions to achieve self-mastery.
Evaluation is always a part of systems
management but it requires a performance standard. For instance, a
criterion for a man’s fitness is to manage 50 pushups. Failure to
pass this evaluation should make him decide to re-design his
lifestyle from diet to exercise to sleep regimens. The point is
evaluation should be flexible enough to adapt to specific
structures or organizations.
After all, systems are tools for achieving
goals. For instance, a woman who is about to get married is
expectedly swamped with details of the wedding. But her end-goal is
ever clear: she wants a perfect wedding where everyone—including
herself—can enjoy in an overall atmosphere of sharing and love. To
be able to achieve this, she has to let go of hands-on management
and learn to delegate tasks such as what flowers would best fit the
wedding décor and what would be the best menu for the after wedding
reception. If she is brave enough, she can also give her wedding
guests the privilege to choose their own seats.
Tried and tested systems are applicable in
almost all aspects of life from home to workplace relationships.
Organizing one’s thoughts, particularly on how to make better
everyday activities, optimizes possibilities. Twyla Tharp wrote
about this in her book, The Creative Habit (2006). Though written
in the context of artistic pursuits, she maintains that the
habitual way of doing things is just as important in the artistic
process, maybe even more than the sudden emergence of inspiration.
Additionally, she says that there is no such thing as artistic
genius. Creativity is achieved and learned through a routine
process which everyone can adopt. By extension, she is saying that
exceptional people have learned to cultivate the merits of habitual
actions for productivity.
Concept 6
Bending reality is the healthy balance between
personal fulfillment and making a difference in the life of other
people.
There is a term for that state of perfect
harmony with one’s desired goals and state of wellness. It is
called bending reality. For instance, while happiness can be
achieved by simply picking up a book and reading in a cozy and
shady part of one’s patio but to maximize this seemingly
insignificant routine, one should pay attention to the need to do
this habit in alignment with one’s life goal or objective.
To illustrate, a woman may be happiest when
she does ballroom dancing simply for the sake of dancing. She finds
the dance sessions relaxing but unknown to her, it is when she is
free from stress that her intuition is at its sharpest. It is
likely that her feeling of freedom from angst as a result of her
dancing inspires her to put up free movement lessons to interested
persons as a tool for improving their wellness as well as their
means of self-expression. In this sense, she is bending reality
because she uses her desire for dancing not only for her
self-improvement but also to achieve her goal to have an impact on
the world at large. One the other hand, if she limits dancing
simply for her enjoyment in the confines of the dance studio, she
narrows the boundaries of her growth and her potentials.
Concept 7
Exceptional persons achieve happiness by practicing
blissipline, or the values of gratitude, mercy and generosity.
Being in the moment and being happy at the
same time need self-discipline particularly if one has limited
leisure time or when one is into a big project such as managing a
business or aiming for a job promotion. To do this, one must
develop the habit of being grateful, merciful and helpful. Lakhiani
calls this blissipline. People who are naturally appreciative have
a pleasant disposition which generates more feeling good aura.
Forgiving and forgetting hurts and disappointments means letting go
of resentments by refraining from blaming others for one’s failures
or unhappiness. Most importantly, generous acts always considerably
increase our feeling of self-worth.
Never use the bad things that happen to you
as an excuse to justify a negative attitude. It is expected, for
instance, that you will feel upset if a trusted friend betrays you.
But it is good to realize that you have a choice on how to react.
You can hold on to the fault or you can look for the lesson you
might learn from the incident. In The Secret of Happiness, David
Miller refers to a strong character as one who achieves happiness
by making other people happy. In fact, he says it is the only kind
of gesture that generates true happiness. When we are appreciative
of blessings, when we forget hurts done to us or when we give—these
are the roads to happiness
Concept 8
Exceptional persons have control over their life
objectives.
People choose between two types of goals.
Firstly, there is means goal which can only be achieved with the
help of other people. An example, for instance, is aiming to stick
to one intimate partner during one's lifetime. Secondly, there are
end goals which are dependent exclusively on an individual’s
actions. A good example is being a successful writer.
End goals are more fulfilling because it
helps a person grow and at the same time they create a positive
impact to a larger community. An example is Bill Cummings. Cummings
is an American billionaire philanthropist who introduced the
uncommon practice of giving benefits to his real estate employees.
He could afford this because his company was considerably
profitable and stable. Hence, wanting to create a permanent
positive work environment, he turned toward improving teamwork in
his company by creating a mechanism where all his staff can donate
$1000 to an organization of their own choice. Cummings did not do
this to create media mileage for his company, which could have been
a means goal, rather, he created a situation where his employees
can experience the happiness that is generated by sharing. This was
the end goal for Cummings. In doing so, he also allowed his
employees to re-connect with fundamental values that generate a
sense of self-worth and well-being.
Concept 9
Exceptional persons do not require other people’s
affirmation; their source of validation comes from within.
To attain you fullest potential you have to
have true grit or extreme emotional and mental toughness. People
with this quality are referred to as unfuckwithable. This means you
do what you have to do to reach your goals unmindful of the
challenges and what people may say or think about you. In short,
you are sufficient unto yourself and you don’t allow yourself to
react to outside opinion.
Sometimes we perceive high profile people
like movie stars or famous politicians as unfuckwithable. But it
does not follow that popularity makes one untouchable or immune to
adversarial opinion since success or prominence does not translate
to a strong character. Take the case of prominent writer and
thinker Alain de Botton. He could not handle the negative review on
his book The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work (2009). The viciousness
of his response to a particular blogger shows that he has allowed
the blogger’s opinion to affect him. Despite being a bestselling
author, De Botton was vulnerable and exposed the fact that he was
not unfuckwithable. Actor Gabourey Sidibe, however, showed what
true grit is. Her response to the mean comments on her Golden Globe
Awards dress in 2014 was to tweet that she did cry over the
comments while on her private plane on her way to her dream job.
What a subtle way to get back at her detractors, and what a way to
demonstrate self-worth and toughness.
Concept 10
Exceptional persons pay attention to their inner
voice which directs them to their life purpose.
Extraordinary persons first develop their
optimal potentiality and then they focus on improving the quality
of life of others. It is at this point that they realize their
higher purpose although it is often something that defies rational
explanation. This is so because each individual is a part of the
God particle which makes one a Godicle. Only those who recognize
the divine in them are ready to use their skills and thoughts in
manners which are nothing less than god-like in nature.
In addition, those who recognize the divine
in them are potentially able to experience deep insights on
different levels. For instance, an actor diagnosed with cancer
might think of putting up a self-therapy project. It is likely she
gets into the project as a way of diverting her attention from the
stressful thought of having a terminal illness. As she gets deeply
involved in her project, she is able to put her life in perspective
and it motivates her to adopt a healthy lifestyle as well. She
brings this mindset to her TV series which gets the nod of a
producer who eventually offers her a new TV show. Visualizing her
future on a TV star, the actor, given her expanded consciousness,
realizes that the illness and her turning into an advocate for
cancer victims is integral to her life’s journey. This discernment
is part of her growth in spirituality and an understanding of the
divine nature in her. As she moves on with her life, she learns to
trust her inner voice, her intuition or call it her Godicle which
directs her to align her decisions to universal truths.
Thanks for Reading
kumarsumanabhishek4@gmail.com
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